I’d Rather You Trust Me Rather Than Like Me! – Sales eXchange 16750

Sales is not without its share of wife’s tales or empty sayings, passed down from one generation of sales people to the next.  Some are considered universal, despite the fact that it has been a long time since they related to anything in specific to selling consistently and successfully.  But they sound good, and you generally get “bonus” points for saying them in the right discussion, on social media or sales seminars.  You don’t know how hard I have to hold back from rolling my eyes or taking someone full on when they drop one of these untruths in my workshops.  In most instances, these are completely wrong, or off the mark, but go unchallenged because they have taken cultural roots in the sales mythology.

One of these is the notion that “people buy from people they like”.  BS!  We have all bought from people we did not necessarily like or would want to spend time with outside the business at hand.  What people really mean is that “people buy from people they trust”, but many sellers have difficulty creating trust, and have a much easier time “getting liked”.  Some are good at being likable, others go to the most common denominator, and buy their adoration.  One fellow I was debating the issue with this week, offered this when I asked him how his team achieves being liked: “a couple reps taking prospects to the Giants Rockies game on Thursday couple reps taking prospects to the Giants Rockies game on Thursday”.   Gee, what do you do in non-Major League towns?

This no different than the reps who rather than dealing directly with objections or giving sound reason to a buyer for meeting say “I’ll bring the coffee, how do you take it”.

Sure it is effective, it may even generate the illusion of being liked, until someone more “likeable” read bigger presents, comes along.  You don’t know how many times I speak to reps who lost existing accounts who say, “I thought he liked me”; sure he did till someone more likeable came along.

On the other hand, if you build trust, and maintain and grow trust, you build a more solid foundation for a business relationship.  And that is what we are dealing with a business relationship, if you are trustworthy in the way you do business, in how you help them achieve their objectives, you will be on much safer ground than if you pretend they like you.  There are people we all trust that may not be at the top of our “like” list; but they are at the top of reliability list, capability list, straight intentions list, etc.

If you want to start to work on your trust index, there are lots of great choices, I would recommend you start with Charles H. Green, and work from there.

I have had clients who I knew did not like me in any particular way, but when it came to trust, recommendation to others, and relying on for honest advice and helping their business, I have been their go to person for years, because they trust me, and they LIKE the work I do.

What’s in Your Pipeline?
Tibor Shanto

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